Did I Do That?

I shifted in my thinking for a bit, and from time to time we all do it!
We become so hard on ourselves that we think every thing and any
thing is our fault....Until, someone who knows us a little better than
the last person can shed some light on the subject......

Short story....

Guy and girl walk into a bar.
Guy is sitting with girl.
Girl is so happy she is with guy.
Guy buys her drinks.
Guy smiles at her.
Guy kisses her.
Girl is feeling pretty damn good.
Guy walks away to buy more drinks.
Girl is wondering what is taking so long so  buys her own drink.
Guys comes back and says "hi, be right back"
Girl smiles and says okay.
Guy never comes back.
Girl looks for guy.
Guy is talking to another girl. closely.
Girl asks "whatcha doing?"
Guy gets mad.
Girl gets mad.
Guy goes outside.
Girl goes outside.
Girl is now wondering WTF?
Guy walks away.
Girl chases him.
Guy ignores her.
Girl calls. text. calls. text.
Guy ignores her.
Girl feels bad for days. Thinking it was her fault.
Guy is drinking beer and scratching his balls.

Moral of the story.....

He wanted a reason to break it off, because he has baggage!!! and felt better
by making it her fault! So, asked by another guy..."And he's gone?"
Yep!
"okay done, what's next?"
That was all it took.
Girl deserves better.

Warning: Alcohol Consumption Constitutes Sexual Activity

"There are only two times I drink beer, when I'm alone or with someone else"

I wasn't sure how I wanted to write this particular post. It seemed any way I thought of words to type, I came out looking like a hooker or Jezebel looking for a good time.  The best form in getting my message across, the title says it all.

Most women will not admit this, but I on the other hand, usually have no shame in being me and what I'm about. We drink alcohol and become completely open and honest.

I become EXTREMELY touchy. Let me clarify, I know my limits. If I am indeed dating  someone or, (referencing this post) sleeping with someone, they will be receiving  my  drunk sexual prowl. If however I am single and not dating at the moment, you can find me in a bar on occasions with a glass or two of wine, wrapping it up by 10pm and calling it a night. I do not trust myself.

Take notice how often people blame the alcohol for the promiscuity. In fact that's really what we want, but to afraid to ask for before the buzz kicks in and the alcohol takes us to heightened pleasures.

If you see me out, drunk, my man is not far behind.

The more we drink the more uninhibited we become. It's a proven fact.

The top 5 " Wanna be" boyfriends!

The top 5 " Wanna be" boyfriends!

1. The True Romantic
This guy is all about romance. He may or may not have been married before but I guarantee somewhere along the lines he had a long relationship with a women (even if it was only with his mother). All he wants to do is cuddle, cuddle and cuddle so more. He will bring you flowers when you are down. Soup when you are sick. Best of all he will tolerate any abuse you give him (ignoring him brings him closer). This is a tough one to get rid of, the problem is you probably really like him as a friend. Spare him the chase (and his feelings) by being upfront with him about your non romantic feelings for him. trust me this will save you a lot of heartache and his heartbreak in the future. If he can't handle just being friends, assure him you understand and run!

2. The Busted Ego
This wanna be is way to cool to show you he is a sap. He has had his ego busted (not heart) by one to many women and is willing to do anything to bring it back. Just when you thought " I might like this one" wham! he brings out the ego. He just needs it stroked. So stroke it overload, and he will find someone else to get a fresh boost.

3. The Divorcee
He loves to be married. He has probably married his high school sweetheart only to find out she wanted out after 10 years. He is still picking up the pieces of what went wrong but he thinks with a little guidance and a new wife, things can get better. Sure he has children but he thinks things can go well and you and his ex wife will get a long great. If marriage is not your thing right now, don't keep this boyfriend coming back. Take him where you hang out and let him mingle. Trust me he will find another interest. You're off the hook and he'll tell you how he has fallen for someone else. Cry a little and tell him keep in touch.

4. The Always Single
There is a reason for him to be single. He will want to be with you any time his friends are not available. He will gloat about all the fun him and his friends had (without you). He will promise you the world and leave right after a quickie for lunch. These are the hardest to get rid of because we enjoy our freedom too so we think it is a perfect match. Wrong. When you become unavailable he will seek you out. To lose this one, create a decoy with love talk. You want him, need him, love him. He will run and find someone else to not cherish!

5. The Married
Yep, you guessed it. Even married men will try to date you. They will cry about how lonely they are. How they are going to get a divorce soon. They are so unhappy being married but if they were with you they would want to be married. Yeah, right! Tell him you want to get married asap and if he is really interested he will buy you a ring even before he is divorced! See Ya!

Reality Bites

I have become a complete and utter softy!
I have finally realized my motherhood along
with a few good relationships a boat load of
alcohol and one or two horrible loves, I am broken.

I can not believe I have twisted my views on dating
and relationships and how they should BE.
I know it doesn't seem so cut and dry but it is.

The information you are going to receive next will make
more sense if you read a few of post mainly, shhhhhh

If you are not being pursued he is either with another woman.
Or many! Doesn't really like you, no matter how many text or
late night calls you receive...

No, I don't think it's adorable when he came over your house
late one night but stayed for breakfast before running out the
door. No I don't think it was adorable when he said he would call
you and waited a few days because he finally squeezed you in
his schedule!

MEN who are actual MEN will go above and beyond to,
1. see you
2. talk to you
3. hear your voice
4. make you smile
5. WIN you

YES, I said WIN! Men are competitive!
The bullshit, wimpy excuse men now give make
me cringe! YOU are worth so much more! You have
no idea what life and actual love you would receive
by raising your standards and have him lower his ego.

I will receive arguments on this but before you respond,
Ask yourself, Does he call? often?
Does he make dates, plans and future engagements?
Or are you sitting alone, texting someone else and hoping
he will do any of the above?

I didn't think so!
Stop settling for a chump who will continue to
pursue the women who could cares less. Men
will climb any wall to reach the woman he loves.
And, neither of you can fall in love, If he doesn't
climb the wall!